“Love at sight” mean people who fall in love by the first encounter to a stranger. These feelings may be romantic or emotional.  It produces an intimate desire of relationship with other stranger person. Love at sight is a crush (mean your eyes fall in love with thing or some one).

I defined it to the best of my knowledge may you people don’t agree with this, but my question is that is any thing really exist like that in life? Are there people who claim that they fall in love at sight? Is this love true? Well the third question answer is No I don’t agree that is love because it is a crush of eyes not of heart. Second question answer is yes there are many people who claim that they fall in love at sight. First question answer is no there is nothing like love at sight. I will try to justify these soon.

Let us explain it more. To better understand phenomena of love we must familiar with stages of love, and how it develops. You always hear about these five types

1.     Attraction,

2.     Romance,

3.     Passion,

4.     Intimacy, &

5.     Commitment...

We will define these types just for knowing them. You can found them in detail very easily on google.  Attraction is a positive relationship for a person. Attraction may be physical or mental. Romance is an act. Act of attracting other with influence or gain favors of other. It may be selfish or selfless romance. Passion is desire of other. It intensity can not be ignored. In passions emotional relationship turns into physical one. Fourth one is Intimacy which means it is a much stronger bond of love stages in which you share your dreams and thoughts with other. The bond of relationship makes it so stronger that you do not feel hesitation by telling any thing to other. Commitment is promise that we will live together in good and bad times. So these are five stages defined for love till now.

Do you agree with all these stages?

If we agree with that then love at sight can  be justified because of the first stage is attraction. You may be attracted by any one at first sight, but don’t you feel that these five types narrowed the scope of love. So in order to broader the scope love and to justify the answers given in second paragraph its important to put stages of love that are not as predefined. For me the stages of love are different and as follow.

What I think that the first step of love is affection. Affection is attachment. You can only attach with a person with whom you passed a long span of life. Affection can not be created in one day it need a lot of time. Affection can be happened with any person thing or even with animals. You feel sad If your dog that you have for three years die. Why u feel sad because of affection you attached with him for a long time, love is not possible with animals.

The affection then change to love after long time. But the bond of that love is not strong you already have feeling for that person but what improve is that you want well wishes of that person. Your heart force you to think about that person more at the last it happen that you want that person. That is love.

But this didn’t stop here though English dictionary stop it there. I searched alot but didnt got a proper word for the rest of two feelings. After that another stage happened that is much more stronger then love, in that condition you only think how to found your love, you don’t care of world, you don’t care what people think about you, you don’t care of any thing but always think about your beloved. If you go to Urdu you will found a word “dewangi” near to madness in English but this is not madness,  the person is not mad but he don’t have time to think about any thing else except his beloved. Some time this strong condition indulges them to act like mad people.

The last and final stage of love is “Ishaq” the only difference between this and last one is that these people become deeper and they don’t act like mad. There will to get beloved physically die, and they thought about his or her beloved in good faith. At this stage they act like normal people and do not miss conduct any act that brings disgrace to his or her beloved. There heart come under control of there love. No one can found that they are in love but only there heart knows that there is a beloved for whom they can do every thing. They just live for that

If we look at all this and you accept my stages of love then you will agree that there is nothing like love at sight, crush of eyes are not love, still I leave final decision to you people that what you think, your comments will show that……

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